Clitoral Stimulation

Awe yeah! Let’s start with clitoral stimulation, because her anatomy pretty much dictates that the clit comes first. You can do this with your tongue, mouth, finger(s), cock, a toy, or get creative (like with your nose or something).  Choose your stoking tool.  My personal favorite is the tongue. 😉

Now you have to find the darn thing.  It can be rather elusive under those folds. Try locating it with your fingers first then you can switch to mouth stimulation. One way to find it is to start at the opening of her vagina and trace up the middle (between her inner lips) until you hit a little nub of harder tissue near the north end of her pussy.  That’s it!  Finding it this way helps you get nestled in under her clit’s hood and also should have your finger nice and lubed from the source. Peep this illustration.

Perineal view of external female genitalia.

Please note that even though it’s a tiny little guy (for most women anyway), there are sections of the clitoris that are more sensitive than others and these spots can sort of migrate for the same woman in the same sitting. No wonder it’s so hard to get most of us off, right? So talking really helps! Note: it can be hard for a lot of women to ‘find their voice’ in the bedroom, so be considerate of that.

A great place to start is the upper left quadrant of her clit (her left, your right), right about one o’clock if her clit were a clock, nestled in under her hood. Also right up the middle of her clit (the bridge) is hugely sensitive.  Every woman is different, and even the same woman can be different at times. I mean we’re simple, really. 😉

Let’s identify the different elements of the clitoris stoke: direction and length, pressure and friction, and speed and rhythm. With each of these it’s really going to depend on your lady and what she’s into. I mean this phrase is so popular I don’t even have to finish it: different strokes.

Listen to her responses. Talk to her, which I’ll go into specifically how to do here.

 

DIRECTION & LENGTH

In other words we’re talking about the motion. Most of the time moving up and down the length of her clit will do the trick.

But sometimes it’s nice to switch it up, maybe when you’re just getting started or for some variety mid-job. You can try moving in circles over her clit or side to side over the bridge of her clit or at different diagonal angles.

You can also play with the length of the up and down stroke.  Sometimes I like a longer stroke that starts below my clit and moves to the top of my clit or even starts as low as at the entrance of my vagina, essentially stroking the entire length of my pussy. Sometimes I like for there to be barely any length on the stroke at all, like your finger is sort of just vibrating over one spot.

I personally think that the actual motion isn’t as important as how you’re doing it.  What I mean is if you’re just going through rote movements it’s not going to be as hot as if you’re really into it. If you’re stroking her like you love her pussy it’s going to come across differently than if you’re like, “Okay, up, down, up, down.”

Think about connecting with her pussy.  Appreciate the beautiful feminine pussy you have the pleasure of touching as you stroke it, and don’t be surprised if magical things happen.

 

PRESSURE AND FRICTION

Let me start by saying the pussy is a delicate flower, but it can also handle a pounding like a champ. Pressure preference is all over the board, so until you know what your lady likes, be easy.

Friction goes hand in hand with pressure but is still a separate concept. The key player with friction is lubrication. Most women like a lot of lubrication, but I do know a few that like a lot of friction and therefore prefer less lube. The very best lube is hers. So if you’re stroking her with your finger(s) dip them in her honey pot first and drag them up to her clit, unless she’s so wet that you don’t have to. If you’re stroking with your tongue you don’t have to worry about lube as much. You’re pre-lubed. Good job.

As a general rule with pressure you want to start light and get more intense. Similar to the head of your penis, the clit can’t handle as much pressure at the beginning stages of arousal as it can once it’s fully aroused. Now in this particular scenario you’ve made sure she’s super warmed up, so her clit can probably handle more pressure than if you went in cold.

Play with it. Start soft and gradually add more pressure and gauge her reaction. You can ask her if she wants it harder.

You don’t have to worry as much about applying too much pressure with your tongue like you do with your finger because it’s harder for you to possibly hurt her with your tongue.

You can also play with the pressure at different points along the stroke, making like a wave motion.

 

SPEED AND RHYTHM

Again, preference depends on your lady. I will say that most guys don’t know the meaning of slow. Give slow a try. Moving slowly and with purpose is extremely sensual and tells her you know what you’re doing.

Some women like the pace to start slower and gradually increase as she gets closer and closer to climax, while others want a nice steady pace from start to finish. If your lady likes for the pace to speed up then you’ll want to start somewhat slow, because you have to have somewhere to go, and if you quicken to your maximum pace before she’s ready to blow, you might be working extra hard to try to get her off or having to start over.

I would say a medium steady pace pleases most.

Most women prefer a reliable steady rhythm.  Sometimes you can feel when she’s getting close. The texture of her tissues will change. She’ll sort of tighten up or swell. If you feel this you might get excited and quicken your pace. If your lady absolutely needs that super steady pace, as some do, then you just fucked it up. So once you feel her close to orgasm DON’T CHANGE A THING. Whatever you did to get her there was obviously working, so keep doing that and continue until she’s done cumming, or just keep it up until she stops you, because you might be able to just roll right into a second orgasm.

Did somebody say multiple orgasms? YASSS. I did. A lot of women say that their clit can’t handle as much pressure on round two. I have also heard women say that they need more pressure on subsequent orgasms. Feel it out, and you can always ask if she would like more or less pressure.

 

ORAL CLIT STIMULATION

You can do so much more with your mouth than any other stroking device. You can suck, lick, tongue flick, and kiss in all sorts of ways. You can even blow raspberries on her clit or press your lips together and buzz on her clit like it was a kazoo. This is cool because it essentially turns your mouth into a vibrator.

Again, every woman is different. Try to find that certain type of kiss that she really loves by trying out different things and assessing her responses. Once you find something she really likes, keep doing it. Do it over and over and over again, steadily and continuously, and eventually she’ll cum… Or possibly she’ll get disenchanted with that form of stimulation, which simply means it’s time to switch it up. Again, look for something she really likes and do that consistently and rhythmically until she comes (cums?).

Some analogies that I’ve heard women use to describe how they like their pussy eaten:

“Ever watch a dog drink water from a bowl? Do that.”

“Just make out with my clit.”

“It’s like a cross between licking and sucking on my clitoris over and over.”

I am neither a doctor nor a sexpert. I’m just a chick with a passion for orgasm. My mission is for women to get off more and more... and more.

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